Tuesday, June 25, 2013

How many great loves do we get in life?

I love gangster movies.  I think it’s the Gemini in me  - I have a little bit of a gangsta alter ego!
Anyways one of my favorite Gangster movies is the Bronx Tale. There is part where Sonny is telling the kid about love:
You gotta do what your heart tells you to do. Let me tell you somethin' right now. You're only allowed three great women in your lifetime. They come along like the great fighters, every ten years. Rocky Marciano. Sugar Ray Robinson. Joe Louis. Sometimes you get 'em all at once. Me? I had my three when I was 16. That happens. What are you gonna do? That's the way it goes, you know? Tell you right now. See this girl? Maybe this girl, she put wind in your sails. Maybe she's your first great one.
Which leads me to the Three Great Loves Theory! I’ve heard others say it and I believe it. I think you get three great loves in your life.
For some people they find their first one and are lucky enough to make that one work for the rest of their life.
I am not so lucky…. My first love will always have a very special place in my heart. I met him when I was 18 and moved away my family for him. I grew up with him. I learned so much from our love. But we drifted apart and at the age of 24 we went our separate ways….
For some people the second one is the ONE… My parents for instance. Both married previously before marrying each other. They are true soul mates and are amazing for each other.
I am not so lucky…. My second love – Has been my hardest life lesson. I truly believed if I loved him enough I could save him from himself – I could love him enough that he would love himself…. WOW! What a mistake. But he gave my greatest gift in my life… my beautiful son.
And for others the third time is the charm…
I hope I can be so lucky….Don’t get me wrong I am REALLY happy where I am in my life right now.  I am not looking for love… not now BUT I would be lying if I said I never wanted to find love again.  I am a Gemini and the opposite of my gangsta side is the hopeless romantic.

So I ask you… How many great loves do you think you get in life?


  1. I think you get as many great loves as you need.
    Life is a lovely journey filled with people that help lead us down our paths and shape who we are.
    For some people, your parents for instance, what they need for their journey is a better half. Balance. Your dad is tempered by your mom. As a whole, they are better than their individual parts.
    I feel as though your journey is a little closer to mine. That it's about learning and growing.
    How many people will we love or will love us deeply? As many as our journey requires.

  2. I totally agree with Michelle! You get as many as you need to find the one who is truly THE ONE.

    I will say I am one of those people who thinks love finds you and not the other way around...usually when you least expect it. I know it's so cliche, and things have changed with online dating, etc. I just still think that anytime love happens on such a large scale that it's almost unfathomable, it still qualifies as unexpected.

    Besides the fact that you're such a beautiful person inside and out, you know have the experience and have learned exactly what you want and need more than ever. When THE Mr. Right comes along, you will know it with 100% certainty and it will be better than it ever was before!